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#FridayFrivolity New Year's Resolutions 2017

#FridayFrivolity New Year's Resolutions


Happy Friday everyone!  I hope you all had a joyful holiday season and are gearing up for a fulfilling, progress-filled 2017.  Our theme at #FridayFrivolity this week is New Year's Resolutions... perfect timing, right??

I posted periodically last year on specific goals / resolutions, but while I think goals can be useful even if they aren't met in their entirety or quite on time -- yay progress in any form! -- 2017 is going to require a pretty big shift in gears for me.  (More on that very soon! 😜 )  Given that, I tried to think more holistically about the changes that are coming, and the things I would like to achieve, and went from there.

If I were to pick one word to define my goals for the coming year, I think it would be "intention."  Y'all know I'm all about living with intention!  ;P  But I think that purposeful-ness will be even more important for me in 2017.  I am so excited to see all the adventures this year will bring!


I Resolve, 2017 Edition:



New Year's Resolutions Inspirational Printable via Devastate Boredom -- #FridayFrivolity memes and fun!

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Inspirational Printables and September Goal Review + Link-Up Community

awesome free printables to motivate you to tackle goals and progress! -- Free inspirational and motivational printables - quote art for your fridge, mirror, or gallery wall!  Make Things Happen and May You Live Every Day of Your Life by Jonathan Swift - various colors and designs to choose from.  Jump start your goals by printing these typographic posters, and then join the Life of Intention community link-up! via Devastate Boredom
awesome free printables to motivate you to tackle goals and progress! -- Free inspirational and motivational printables - quote art for your fridge, mirror, or gallery wall!  Make Things Happen and May You Live Every Day of Your Life by Jonathan Swift - various colors and designs to choose from.  Jump start your goals by printing these typographic posters, and then join the Life of Intention community link-up! via Devastate Boredom

Anybody else excited about October??  October was always one of my favorite months growing up because it was the month of birthdays (my own, my younger brother's, and my dad's) and also the month of Halloween!  Actually, we didn't really celebrate Halloween when I was a kid, but our church always had a Harvest Festival that was pretty much the best thing ever... basically a fair where all the games were free.  And we still all got to dress up so... free fair in costumes??  Kid paradise!  

This post is going to multi-task a little bit and serve as both my long-promised new installment of inspirational printables AND a review of monthly goals... since clearly we will accomplish more goals when we are motivated and inspired, I hope it will be an acceptable combo.  ;)

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Let's Be Honest - True Life Confessions... July / August Goals and Life of Intention Link-UP

goals link-up to join next month... Discouraged with your goals and resolutions?  Keep moving and trying -- we're making progress towards where and who we want to be!  Join our link-up party for accountability and community and don't give up!  via Devastate Boredom
Oh friends.  You know that moment when you just have to shake your head and wonder... "what was I thinking?"  I feel that way about my July goals right now!  

I wrote a post full of awesome advice on how to set attainable goals, goals that you can actually achieve without getting discouraged (and it WAS awesome advice, if I do say so myself), and then I DIDN'T FOLLOW IT.

I made my goals completely UNACHIEVABLE, by setting too-specific goals to accomplish on a DAILY basis.  

Sorry for all the caps, but I'm so mad at myself!

Here were my unachievable goals for the month of July:  

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Tired of Feeling Stuck? July Goals - Tips for Progress and Company Along the Way! Life of Intention Linky Party

If you're tired of feeling stuck, there are some seriously helpful tips here!  5 Steps to Creating Goals that Won't Discourage You! Embracing a Life of Intention, Purpose, and Focus - How to Actually Come Up with Goals You'll Reach!  via Devastate Boredom
Last week I wrote about goals, and bucket lists, and what to do to make resolutions that motivate instead of discouraging you.  It is possible!!  

I also shared that I planned to start a link-up party for folks to share their goals each month, for online community and accountability as we move towards lives of greater intention.  Well, today is that glorious day!!  Below I share my goals for this month, as well as the link-up party for you to share your goals as well.  I promise to read each one, and share them via social media too!  

But first, in case you need a refresher, here are four tips for how to create goals that will set you up for success, not frustration.   




5 Steps to Creating Goals You Will Actually Reach!


  1. Pick a reasonable number of goals. If you have twenty goals that you are tackling all at once, you're going to get discouraged.  Period, end of story.  Honestly, the human brain can't even RETAIN that many thoughts / goals... pick no more than seven, and probably just start with four or five.  I say seven because it's the so-called Magical Number of things your short-term memory can hold... and I recommend actually starting with four or five because it's better to begin with less and have success, than to bite off more than you can chew and give the whole thing up in a fit of frustration.
  2. Pick goals that are within your control.  A lot of times people say to make your goal "measurable," but goals like, "increase my twitter following by 500" or "lose 10 lbs" are measurable, but honestly not entirely within your control.  Discouragement, here we come!  A better goal would be, "each week follow 150 new folks on twitter, to begin growing my own following," and "work out four times a week."  You are in control of your own efforts, and if it results in 500 twitter followers or 10 lbs lost at the end of the month, amazing!  But by making your goal within your control means you can meet it, and feel great about your success, even if you've "only" lost 7 lbs, or "only" have 378 new followers. 
  3. Pick goals with room for flexibility.  If you say "have 30 minutes of activity a day" rather than "go running every day," you can meet your goal even if you end up with terrible allergies, or torrential rains in your area, and end up doing workout videos online instead.  Similarly, "do a family activity outside of our house twice a month" is going to be more easily attainable than "go hiking as a family twice a month."  When you sprain your ankle, or one of the kids decides he hates the outdoors, you have room to pick other options and still meet your goal.  
  4. Find accountability.  This can look different ways... online accountability through sharing your goals in a blog post or on facebook, joining my monthly Life of Intention linky party, or leaving a comment on this post to share your goals... "in real life" accountability by setting up a monthly Goal Check-In Coffee Date with some pals, having your bestie ask you about your progress at the end of the month, etc.  There are lots of ways you can go about this, so pick one that works for you.
  5. Make it HARD to forget your goals!  Set yourself periodic reminder alerts on google calendar -- write "goal check!!" in your planner at weekly intervals -- set an alarm on your phone -- write "work out!" on a sticky note and put it on your box of cereal -- etc.  Time can slip by so quickly if you aren't paying attention, so be deliberate about finding ways to pay attention!

All right, it's my turn for that "online community accountability" thing...  Here are my goals for July.



Life of Intention Goals for July:



  • Finish drafting / editing my fantasy novel, working on it for at least 60 minutes EVERY. DAY.
  • Unpack for at least 30 minutes EVERY. DAY.  I'm hoping this will mean it's finished long before July is over.
  • Look for a day-job.  Explore employment opportunities for at least 45 minutes EVERY. DAY.
  • Do some crafty stuff.  Have one project completely done by the end of the month.  (decoupage?  painting canvases?)
  • "Surf" facebook for only 45 minutes a week. Open my kindle app instead of the facebook app all the rest of the time, and READ!

That fifth one might ring a bell for you, because a couple of weeks ago I shared some articles that had hit home for me about how technology is DESIGNED to hijack our brains and keep us engaged (since the more ads we view -- often without even realizing it -- and the more links we click, the more money most sites are making).  In that same post I also shared a webinar I was lucky enough to get to watch for free (sadly not free any more but you can read some of my favorite quotes from it still...) all about the power of really focusing in order to accomplish tasks -- and did a two-week "Deep Focus" Challenge to work on strengthening that skill.  Maybe some of you even joined me!  If you didn't at the time go back and check out that post now, because I can't say enough about how empowering that challenge really was! 

I really do feel like my brain is stronger, more resilient, and more able to tackle hard things now, which is amazing and exciting.  I'm sure you can see how those same trends of re-learning how to focus, and really prioritizing the things that are important to me, come through in my goals -- by limiting time on facebook, choosing to spend free time reading, and by setting aside concentrated blocks of time to FOCUS on specific projects and goals.  


Alright, now it's your turn!!  I can't wait to read your goals for July, and/or ooh-and-ahh over your progress last month.  :)  



Join the Life of Intention linky party below and I'll hop on by -- and share your post via social media too!  In addition, one lucky party participant will randomly win a feature next month! Sweeeeet!



PS: To make it easier for others to find and join our online accountability community, please include a link-back in your post.  Thanks!!







If you're tired of feeling stuck, there are some seriously helpful tips here!  5 Steps to Creating Goals that Won't Discourage You! Embracing a Life of Intention, Purpose, and Focus - How to Actually Come Up with Goals You'll Reach!  via Devastate Boredom



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Spring Bucket List - Success or Failure?? Don't Wait for New Year's to Change Your Life - Tips for Setting Goals!

YES!  Great tips for getting those resolutions back on track now that we're half way through the year...!  Frustrated With Meeting Your Goals? I've Got Tips and a Monthly Check-In! setting attainable goals, achieving resolutions, link-up linky, tips for succeeding and making your goals work, virtual accountability for progress, via Devastate Boredom
Goals, schmoals.  

Everyone was posting their goals on their blogs after New Years, and I felt super jaded about it... all like, "those aren't attainable goals!  You're going to get discouraged" or, "those are way too many goals!  You're just going to get frustrated!"  And in a lot of the cases, I was probably right.  A lot of those people probably did find their New Year's resolutions discouraging, and have probably forgotten about them altogether by now.  

BUT when my pal Lisa over at Syncopated Mama asked her readers for a "spring bucket list" as part of her series 5 After 5 a while back, I went ahead and responded... and *surprised gasp*, it actually was motivating.


This was my list at the time...

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My Two Week "Focus and Deep Work Productivity Challenge", inspired by Cal Newport - Join Me!!

I'm doing it!  I'm going to meet my goals and finish my book!  Take the Two-Week "Deep Focus" Challenge and Embrace a Life of Greater Productivity, Purpose, and Meaning!  How to Get Rid of Procrastination, Distraction, and Social Media Addictions - Get Rid of Facebook (maybe??) and Change Your Life! via DevastateBoredom
A couple of days ago I shared how to find an awesome webinar by Cal Newport (author of Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World), and included some of the notes I took during the webinar too. They included the "challenge" below, which I've decided I'm going to jump right into...  A deeper life of focus and meaning, yes please!  Here's the challenge, as well as what it will look like for me.

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Super Important Stuff about Online Brain-Drains, Living Life Deeply, and Purpose

I recently updated my header with the tag line, "Where laughter meets intention," because, while I love memes and funnies and silliness, I also think it is SO important to prioritize living with deliberation, purpose, and thought.  For me, finding and maintaining a sense of purpose is a key component of devastating boredom.

Our modern tech-focused, social media obsessed world can often be at odds with a life of purpose and intention, shoving "newsfeeds" and constant stimulation down our throats whenever we're stuck in a line or sitting through a commercial break or even (to our greater detriment)...

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Inspirational Printables for Your Gallery Walls, Fridge Door, Bathroom Mirror... Perfect for Wherever You Need a Lift! #FridayFrivolity

Inspirational, motivational, encouraging quotes, a free gift for you!  Wall art for your gallery or your fridge... typographical word-art and colorful backgrounds too!  Fashion quote - life is very short, insecurity is a waste of time from diane von furstenberg - alfred tennyson poetry quote- shell must break before the bird can fly - Plus the #FridayFrivolity link-up blog party
I love free printables!  These are awesome new ones. --- Inspirational, motivational, encouraging quotes, a free gift for you!  Wall art for your gallery or your fridge... typographical word-art and colorful backgrounds too!  Fashion quote - life is very short, insecurity is a waste of time from diane von furstenberg - alfred tennyson poetry quote- shell must break before the bird can fly - Plus the #FridayFrivolity link-up blog party
Can I let you all in on a secret?  

I'm writing a book.  

Well, that's not really the secret, y'all already know I'm working on a novel... two actually.  One historical fiction and one fantasy / sci fi... I switch back and forth depending on how I'm feeling.  I like to keep things complicated interesting, haha!

The "secret" book is one I'm planning to self-publish, as an ebook.  

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READ or DON'T Read - I'm Happy For You (Sort Of... Not Really), by Kay Wills Wyma - Book Review in Miniature

Part of my READ or DON'T Read series, I review I'm Happy For You (Sort of... Not Really) by Kay Wills Wyma.  This self-improvement, Christian, faith - based memoir discusses the "comparison culture" that can lead to insecurity, frustration, and a loss of joy... but thankfully, we're not stuck in that place! via Devastate Boredom
I'm Happy For You (Sort Of... Not Really) by Kay Wills Wyma
Self-Improvement, Christian, Faith, Non-Fiction, Memoir
READ, if you're a human being

I "won" this book recently, which part of me thinks was God handing it to me and going, "here, you need this."  Because, I SO totally did.  I don't even want to admit to you how often lately I had been comparing myself to other people, both in person and online, and feeling good or bad about myself based on the results.... it's too embarrassing.  Let's just say

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READ or DON'T Read - A Book Review in Miniature of The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin

In the past I've done monthly summaries of the books I've read and that's been fun... but when a month slips by and I haven't done much reading it seems a little embarrassing to have a a grand "monthly list" that consists of... two books.  ;P  So, I'm trying out posting book reviews on a more "as I read them" basis... if you have thoughts on the new format, be sure to let me know!

Part of my Read / Don't Read Book Reviews in Miniature series, I give you my thoughts and take-aways from Gretchen Rubin's The Happiness Project -- should you spend your time reading this combination self-help memoir?? via Devastate BoredomThe Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin
Self-help, memoir
READ, if you're a human being

A New York journalist and author decides to spend a year researching and experimenting on different ways to "be happier," highlighting her month-by-month progress, struggles, and conclusions.

I LOVED Rubin's emphasis on mindfulness and proactivity -- two of her foundational tenants are that people should become aware of what makes us happy, and should actively seek out ways to improve our day-to-day.  Rubin tackled a different "area of 

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Artist Soul? Book for Times of Doubt & Uncertainty - "There will be butterflies." A Review of Notes from the Tilt-a-Whirl by N.D. Wilson

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If you are an artist, or have the soul of an artist... if you are disenchanted with church-going and religion, and the usual slogans and anthems bandied about therein... if you are tired of seeing the world as hum-drum and painful... then you should put Notes From The Tilt-A-Whirl: Wide-Eyed Wonder in God's Spoken World by N.D. Wilson on the top of your reading list.  In a full-bodied, richly-colored discussion of everything from the nature of reality to the problem of evil, Wilson manages to paint an impressive panorama of life, death, and a decent chunk of everything that lies in between. It is intelligent, it is insightful, and it is beautiful.

The author aims high with this book, but in something of a non-traditional way; he intends to use words "as paint, spreading them on canvas instead of on paper." He wants "to write to the body and the senses as well as the mind." Largely, he succeeds; Notes from the Tilt-a-Whirl is a collage of impressions, logic, memories, thoughts, philosophy, and distant times and places. It is a fun ride, but the title is honest... parts of the book may well leave you dizzy and breathless. You should strap yourself in before embarking on this journey, and you may be risking a little motion sickness.  But it will be a lot of fun, if you like the whirling, twirling, adrenaline type thing, and unlike ordinary carnival rides you might disembark with a different lens for looking at the world, and perhaps even an entirely new paradigm for reality.

However, the ride might particularly be a hard one for you if you're already a bit spiritually queasy. In fact, if you're in a place of struggle and uncertainty, then I would probably advise you to skip the chapter "Unwomb the World" altogether. Why? Because though the destination of the book is beautifully truthful and heartening, the author is also honest about the experience of hardship and the process of wrestling through the lies and ugliness and fear that life on this planet involves. It is easy to get bogged down in that, and stop reading... spending more time wallowing in the dark and queasy moments then in the reality of justified hope and faith. If you pick up the book (and I hope you do!) and find this to be true for you, then use it instead as motivation to keep reading. Recognize that the author has felt all you are feeling, and that the book was written because the experience was a deception, not a conclusion. If you have patience to keep plodding through a narrative that might reflect the darkest corners of your mind just a little too well, then you will be rewarded. Wilson walks you out of that darkness and into the bright sunshine of a day-to-day that is also glorious, if you can have eyes to see it, and the bracing reality that what will finally await us is joyous beyond anything we can anticipate. The ultimate message of the book is aptly stated about half-way through:

"You have been born into a narrative, you have been given freedom.
Act, and act well, until you reach your final scene."

Is that comforting to you? It is to me. It acknowledges all the variances of life, all the snafus and pitfalls and agonies... and yet also embraces an ultimate structure. There is purpose, and there is freedom to act and move and change reality. Wilson goes on to describe that "final scene" thusly:

"When we die, wherever or whenever that might be, there will be other characters in the story with us, evil characters, good characters and confused ants. But God is also there, shaping the story, off the stage and on the stage, closing a chapter as a turtle bounces, and smiling as it does. To His eyes, you never leave the stage. You do not cease to exist. It is a chapter ending, an act, not the play itself. Look to Him. Walk to Him. The cocoon is a death, but not a final death. The coffin can be a tragedy, but not for long. There will be butterflies."

That is a paradigm, and a reality, that I can accept and even thrive within, despite pain and trouble. To the King, and to the restoration of his Kingdom! Thrive on, fellow kingdom-dwellers, and act out your part on this planet with wonder and joy.

-- This post was originally posted on another blog that I started and kept up for about five minutes, and have since scrapped.  But I didn't want to scrap this book review along with it!  So here ya go.  ;)



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Challenge Yourself to Devastate Boredom! aka, New Years' Resolutions are Just Goals in Fancy Clothes...

All right, after having been on a bit of a blogging hiatus there over the holidays, I return to my keyboard more or less perforce...  My husband and I have been stuck in our apartment for the last 48 hours due to the "Snowpocalypse" currently holding Atlanta hostage, and I'm in desperate need of a little boredom-devastation.  What better way to devastate boredom then to challenge myself with some new goals for 2011?  (That, and I'm succumbing to peer pressure, since my good friend Samantha over at Whatchya Doing, Momma? just posted about her New Years resolutions and now I want to get in on the fun too.  Hi Sam!  :wave:)

Thus far, my oh-so-prosaic resolutions had been to exercise, and floss.  I'm keeping track of both on a calender (Yes, the flossing too, I am SUCH a dork.  Blame my dental-hygienist mother...  ;P).  My husband and I have been working out together, and he's been writing down the time he spends exercising too, so a bit of a competition has developed.  Neither one of us wants to fall behind the other, which results in the surreptitious addition of time on the ellipticals in the work-out room (beep. beep. beep. "I HEARD THAT!!") and debates about whether yoga-stretching should be included on the calender as well (I maintain that it should).  All that aside, I resolve to work out 4-5 times a week.

I also resolve... to get enough sleep.  This one is going to be hard, since I just started student teaching and the whole early-to-rise thing is whipping my butt.  I'm exhausted by nine.  Now I just need to work on being in bed shortly thereafter, and my whole mental outlook will no doubt improve. (When I'm tired I get very existential very fast.)

I resolve... to be a better friend.  I'm terrible at keeping up with the people I care about, and its only gotten worse over the last year.  Unacceptable.

I resolve... to keep up with my piles.  I have attention deficit disorder, hence I pile.  Everything.  Quite orderly piles too, or at least they are until my cats knock them over or I shuffle through them a bit too carelessly in search of whatever I've misplaced at that  moment.  I will file.  I will sort.  I will recycle what I don't need, and I'll make the rest manageable.  

I'm afraid of resolving too much, since I'm already stressed out going into this semester due to the whole student-teaching, capstone-seminar, looking-for-a-job thing, but I'll end with one I stole from Samantha:

 I resolve... to read more and watch TV less.  Hopefully this one will also help with the sleeping resolution, since the artificial light of screens is reputed to be less-than restful, and I have trouble falling asleep when I'm already anxious anyway.  I'll also probably try to do some green resolutions too, like I did in 2009, but I'll tackle those later.  I'll definitely be checking back in here to periodically (I'd say monthly, but let's just be honest, "periodically" is probably going to be closer to the truth) to keep an eye on the progress of my resolutions... gotta make the most of the anonymous cyber accountability I've created by posting them in the first place!  ;P

What about you?  Got any goals for 2011 that you feel like dressing up and naming Resolutions??
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Organization through Brutal Elimination, or: How to Defeat the Boogie Man in the Closet

"Organization" used to feel like a Boogie Man hiding in my closet. Some days I would be brave enough to whip him out of there, beat him into shape and make him take up proper hygiene. Other days, I would pretend not to notice that he existed at all, and would just keep hoping that the piles of papers and clothes I stacked nonchalantly outside the door would trap him, and he would never again emerge. But inevitably organization would emerge, wild and out of control, shrieking and knocking things over... and again I would be forced to admit that ignoring it in the first place had just caused myself all kinds of trouble.

It was especially bad because those tough, brave moments of hyper-organization were actually an expression of my need to structure reality when my life was chaotic, and weren't actually driven by any kind of discipline at all. So the instant the chaos faded, so did the organization. Plus, my home organizational system consisted of piles. A pile for the important papers, a pile for the things to be scrapbooked, a pile of books to be read, a pile of books to take back to the library, and so on. In a lot of cases the system worked fine, and it's actually typical of a lot of people with ADD, but piles are very easily knocked over... especially when the pile-maker is a klutz and owns two cats. The moment I stopped maintaining it, my "system" started to become "mess."

So for me, getting my life in order and keeping it that way requires desperate measures. It requires Brutal Organization, and nothing less.

I came to this conclusion after years of distress, lost papers, and wrinkled clothing, but it was specifically triggered after seven weeks studying abroad, living happily and even ecstatically, with only the very fewest of necessities. Clearly, most of the "stuff" filling my room at home wasn't as integral to daily life as I had thought it was. Shortly after I returned to the states, I took a week-long volunteer trip to post-Hurricane-Katrina New Orleans: a week spent gutting ruined, sodden houses and seeing just how easily the contents of those homes had become rubble. It was a perspective check in a big way, and I went home and completely emptied out my bathroom closet of every single forgotten half-empty bottle and expired prescription, and my closet of all the mis-sized, worn-out clothing that had been shoved to the back. It was cathartic and freeing, and as time past those experiences combined as the impetus that formed my philosophy of Brutal Organization.

The Brutal Organization Manifesto:

Part I: Many, if not most, of the possessions in the average American household are completely superfluous, and superfluous things only serve to weigh us down.Part II: There should be nothing around you that isn't ridiculously utilitarian, personally meaningful, or somehow beautiful.

After you have grappled with and accepted both parts of the manifesto, Brutal Organization then requires that you go through the things you own and reevaluate each with stark honesty. Is it ridiculously useful? Did it use to be meaningful, but now you don't really care any more? Is it beautiful? Could something lovely serve in its place while being just as utilitarian? Is the item a duplicate of something you already have, and could someone else benefit from it instead? Do you use it often enough to make keeping it worth-while?

Brutal Organization becomes a lot easier when you start to view your possessions as tenants in your house. They pay their rent with service, whether it is opening a bottle, cleaning your clothes, making you smile, or helping you remember what is important... but they either need to constantly serve you in small ways, or occasionally in huge ones. Obviously, the serving platter or heaviest coat may only be pulled out a few times a year, but they're going to more than earn their keep. On the other hand, the sweater that you haven't worn in two seasons or that CD you didn't actually like are both way behind on paying their rent. Don't be a pushover landlord! Use Brutal Organization and put some smack down, and make some worthy charitable organization glow with delight over the resulting discarded "stuff."

Brutal Organization doesn't mean getting rid of your ties to the past, by any means -- in fact if you've been reading my posts for very long you're aware of the high importance I place on continuation and physical mementos -- but sometimes values just shift. You should never hang on to something just because you're in the habit of keeping it. It must fall within Part II of the manifesto. Brutal Organization also doesn't necessarily mean getting rid of something just because you haven't used in it a year or two, because it's very likely that you should have been using it during that time. Exercise equipment for example, or perfectly good shoes lying forgotten in the back of your closet, or the crockpot that could save you both time and money if you ever remembered to lug it out of the cabinet... These things don't need to be eliminated, they need to be used! Make a list of the ingredients laying forgotten in the cupboard and post it on your fridge; pile the unwatched DVDs on top of the TV; move the older clothes to the front of the closet and wear them in rotation. If it still doesn't get eaten, watched, worn, or otherwise utilized, or if you remember that there was a stain down the front of that jacket anyway, that's when it's time to be rid of it.

Many times beautiful things can also serve utilitarian purposes, or vice versa. Brutal Organization prompted me to get rid of the ugly green desk organizer I had been using, and substitute a thrift store vase and mug to hold my desk supplies in its place. In their former lives those two objects had been merely decorative, since the mug was cracked and the vase was too short and wide to hold flowers easily; in their new lives they were valued and productive. I was able to use old things in a new way that eliminated a superfluous object and made something lovely also utilitarian. I like my desk a great deal more for the change, and I've doubled my benefit from those items.

We live in a culture of advertising and materialism, and it's easy to forget what's important. Brutal Organization can allow you to appreciate and value what you have that much more, while making life a little simpler. In my experience, it makes for a worthwhile pursuit, and a happier individual. Brutal Organization works for me! And it can work for you too. :)

For many more Works for Me Wednesday posts, check out We're That Family for a wide variety of other fun and useful ideas.
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My Concrete Strategy for Eliminating Existential Crisis, or, Take that, Evil Life-Block!

Recently I posted discussing how certain types of existential crisis can manifest themselves as a feeling of "life-block" (akin to writers' block, only about EVERYTHING), and how I believe that the process of finding meaning and becoming a person of purpose rests a great deal on the "people" I have been and the things I have valued over time. It feels as though I have in some ways let myself become disoriented in my own life, so the logical thing seems to take stock of the guideposts and landscape markers that lie behind me, in order to journey with confidence from here.

However, in my last post I spoke vaguely of considering this as a process of "integrating" myself, in order to better determine my priorities and live out what I value... and especially given the context, words like "integrate" and "reorient" are hardly concrete. So I wanted to describe how I mean to do it, because if nothing else doing so will help keep me accountable to it. I started out by making a list -- brainstorming the things that had been important to me at each various stage of my life so far, and then drawing from that list the items I still do (or should) find meaningful, as well as the things I regret having let go. Some are silly, just meant as a reminder of good memories, and some serve a key role in anchoring my life and motivating me. After I had my list, I tried to think of actions and choices tying into each that will help move me towards regaining the purpose and perspective that they had provided. This is more or less what I ended up with.

5 "not lost, merely misplaced!" things that help me find direction:

1. My faith. I'm so embarrassed that I didn't mention this one in my original post, when I was talking about the "threads of continuity" running through my life... because this is (/should be) the most important. The oversight is a unhappy indicator of the place I'm at right now, having lost sight of many of my priorities... But to be all kinds of metaphorical, if I was a ship sailing over the high seas of life, my faith would be ballast, rudder, and engine, all three. I've let myself forget that, so it should come as no surprise I've been drifting. Right now I'm incredibly thankful for mercies that are new every morning. There are a myriad of concrete ways I can go about reintegrating my faith into my day-to-day life, but the first item on the agenda will probably be to get involved with a church that deliberately makes itself accessible to newcomers, and to start reading scripture myself again. Or maybe I'll cut a corner temporarily on that last one and download some "daily Bible" podcasts to listen to on the bus... hey, whatever it takes right?

2. Volunteering. Throughout college I volunteered pretty regularly, and the experiences meant a lot to me... but I was volunteering with friends usually, and when I lost the structure of college I let it slip away. Scheduling and general busy-ness make this one hard to get back into a routine. Plus, the last volunteer opportunity I was interested in required *three* letters of recommendation, and I don't think there are that many people in existence who think well enough of me to write a whole rec... err, just kidding. (But seriously!) Nevertheless, I should be able to find something, especially seeing as how I live in a big city with a lot of options. Volunteering always provided me with great perspective, as well as the chance to get outside of my own head and work towards concrete positive change, and I'm eager to regain both. You probably should avoid me for a few days... or I might hand you a pen and ask for a letter of recommendation. Just FYI there...

3. Writing. Obviously I still do this one, but it's lost a lot of the joy it used to bring me. It's been a while since I've been swept happily away in an imaginary world all my own. I started writing dozens of stories as a teenager and I don't think I ever finished any of them -- a fact that feels a little too endemic of my life as a whole. I'm now planning on rewriting some of those stories that I started so long ago... or at least slapping endings on to them. Maybe a few will evolve into coherent pieces, and maybe I will just enjoy the sense of resolution and completion; either way, I'm already looking forward to it. And I won't be labeling the documents with self-deprecatory titles like "A Pathetic Medieval Tale" anymore either. Hello, self-confidence! Meet my writing...4. Books! This one was huge for me from the first moment Little Bitty Sarah learned to read, and I devoured books pretty much from that moment on until the middle of college... at which point the chore aspect of reading assignments and the demands of a burgeoning social life pretty much ended the hobby. I also developed along the way a somewhat highfalutin set of ideas about the kind of "intellectual" books I needed to be reading in my spare time... all of which factors conspired to keep me from ever loving reading again up until this point. But though books can be amazing tools for growth and learning, they are also allowed to just be a hobby sometimes... so for the first step towards recapturing my love for books, I'm going to let it simply be that. For now, this reader just wants to have fun! Note to whoever has the third book of the Twilight series checked out of the Atlanta library... can I bribe you to return it early??

5. Playing the piano. I had a love/hate relationship with this one while I was growing up, and definitely had to be forced to practice even the (highly minimal) 20 minutes each day, but I have to say that it was an amazing emotional vent for me. The distraction of focusing on something else, specifically something lovely and and ordered and harmonious, could ease away even the darkest of my adolescent moods. Anybody think it will work on PMS?? Somebody get me a piano, STAT!

Another key item on my list was journaling, so I will be making space on a shelf and lining up all my journals... starting with the purple one with the little lock that contains the lopsided writing of 8-year-old Sarah. Because, when it comes to remember the people I have been (the good, the bad, and the ugly) nothing can beat going back and reading my own words from the time. Journaling in the present also provides me with both perspective and emotional release as well, so that aspect is even more valuable. Other items from my list that serve more as a reminder of good memories and old loves than as motivators or guideposts include: Celtic music, thrift stores, fairy tales, embroidery and other crafts, and fun mail. I also plan to put together a couple of photo collages of random joyful moments, to remind me tangibly of how blessed I am.

For me at least, puzzling through the reasons for my existence and the direction my life should take tie a great deal into knowing who I am and where I come from. The day-to-day can be draining and distracting, and it helps to have solid reminders of the things I value, to give me confidence that there is meaning and worth in each day. There is meaning and worth, thank God! And surrounding myself with even these small things can ease the struggle to keep it "affirmed" in my head each day. That's my plan... and away we go! ;)

Note: I do want to make the distinction that an existential crisis is not the same thing as depression, anxiety disorders, etc, though at times they come hand-in-hand. Dealing with depression is a much more visceral, day-to-day survival kind of thing, and while questioning the meaning of life can be a component of that, the coping methods are decidedly different. That's a topic for a different post though -- here I meant to discuss strictly the philosophical issues of finding personal direction in the moments when uncertainty is its own problem, and not a by-product of depression. To someone struggling with depression this post would likely seem very useless, so I wanted to be sure to clarify.
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